Ellecia Paine is a non-monogamy relationship coach who helps people navigate ENM (Enthusiastic non-monogamy), polyamory, open relating, swinging, kink, and life in general.
Listen in to the candid conversations that give you a peek into the inner lives of other non-monogamous folks. Hear how they've overcome challenges like jealousy, insecurity, and social scrutiny. And celebrate with them as they share all the reasons it's worth it to have relationships that don't fit in the box.
Building Polyamorous Community and Connections with Aly Moon, ep 100
🎉100 episodes! Can you believe it? Three years ago, I was terrified to be on video, worried about getting it all "right." Now, this podcast has become a thriving space for deep, unfiltered conversations about non-monogamy—and it’s all thanks to you! 💜
To celebrate this milestone, I’m joined by Aly Moon, a polyamory community leader with 15+ years of non-monogamous experience and 7 years of hosting events in the Pacific Northwest. Aly is all about creating intentional, inclusive spaces where polyamorous folks can connect, learn, and grow together.
The #1 Secret to Thriving in Open Relationships (It’s Clear)
Discover how clarity can transform your non-monogamous relationships into thriving connections. Learn the key strategies to build trust, communication, and fulfillment in your adventurous lifestyle.
The Anxious Person's Toolkit for Successful Non-Monogamous Connections, Ep. 98
Are you navigating the emotional landscape of non-monogamy? In this episode, I chat with Lola Phoenix, author of "The Anxious Person's Guide to Non-Monogamy", "The Non-monogamy Journal", and host of the "Non-Monogamy Help" podcast. We chat about the complexities of open relationships and how to build a toolkit for managing the intense emotions that often arise.
The Hidden Costs of Ignoring Jealousy in Non-Monogamous Relationships, EP. 97
Jealousy doesn't fade when we ignore it. It grows silently, taking a toll on our relationships and emotional well-being.
I've seen this pattern time and again in my coaching practice. Clients who brush off their jealousy, hoping it'll disappear, often find themselves dealing with deeper issues down the road.
But here's the truth: addressing jealousy head-on can transform your relationships.
Reignite Your Dating Life: Overcoming App Burnout and Finding Your People, ep. 96
Are you tired of swiping endlessly on dating apps, feeling like you're getting nowhere? In this episode, I sit down with Julie and Yue, the dynamic duo behind the Dateable podcast and authors of "How to Be Dateable: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Person and Falling in Love." These dating experts are here to shake up your approach to modern romance, whether you're monogamous, non-monogamous, or somewhere in between.
Why DIY Jealousy Solutions Fall Short in Non-Monogamy, ep. 95
Have you ever found yourself caught in the grip of jealousy, promising that next time will be different, only to find those familiar feelings resurface? If you've been trying to tackle jealousy on your own without success, you're not alone. In this episode, I'm pulling back the curtain on why DIY approaches to managing jealousy often fall short, and why deeper work is crucial for lasting change.
The Unexpected Paths of Non-Monogamy: A Conversation with Annie Undone, EP. 94
Are you ready to challenge everything you thought you knew about relationships? In this eye-opening episode, I sit down with Annie Undone, a writer, artist, and relationship anarchist who's been through it all - from monogamy to swinging, polyamory, and now relationship anarchy. Together, we unpack the raw truth about opening up relationships and why it might just lead to the end of your current partnership... but that's not necessarily a bad thing.
How to Turn Jealousy Into a Tool for Growth, Ep. 93
Have you ever felt that knot in your stomach when your partner laughs a little too hard with someone new? Or that tightness in your chest when they're excited about a fresh connection? Jealousy can be an unwelcome guest in our emotional landscape, especially in non-monogamous relationships. But what if I told you that this intense feeling isn't your enemy, but potentially one of your most powerful allies?
Why 2025 is the Year to Let Go of Jealousy, ep 92
Ever felt that sudden pang of jealousy when scrolling through social media or hearing your partner mention a new name? You're not alone. In this eye-opening episode, I dive deep into the often misunderstood emotion of jealousy and how we can transform it from a source of pain into a powerful tool for personal growth and deeper connections.
Catapults and Consent: When Kink and Polyamory Overlap
Are you ready to get an in-depth look into navigating kink and non-monogamy together? This episode is your ultimate guide to understanding the fascinating intersection of kink, polyamory, and non-monogamous relationships. I’m sitting down with Still, a veteran kink community organizer and co-host of Tasty!—South Seattle's monitored monthly kink night at The Lumber Yard Bar. Together, we unpack what it really takes to create safe, trusting, and authentic experiences in these diverse communities.
Boundaries, Bedrooms, and Beyond, Navigating Non Monogamous Dating with Shannon Whaley Ep. 87
Curious about what it really takes to date in the non-monogamous world? In this episode, I’m joined by Shannon Whaley, an anti-hustle business coach and newly-out polyamorous explorer, as we dive into the challenges and breakthroughs of non-monogamous dating. Together, we break down the nuances of setting clear boundaries, asking the tough but essential questions, and finding self-worth after surviving toxic relationships.
Beyond Vanilla The Intersection of Polyamory and Kink with Maeve McBride EP.86
Ever wondered what happens when kink and non-monogamy collide with trauma healing? In this episode, I sit down with the incredible Maeve McBride, a kink and ENM educator, erotic coach, and the Executive Director of Kinkfest 2025, to talk about how these worlds intersect—and it’s not just about the fun stuff (though there’s plenty of that too).
Sex Geeks Get Real: Consent Talks Before Getting Busy with Reid Mahalko
Ever wondered how sex educators navigate their own intimate encounters? In this candid and eye-opening episode, I sit down with renowned sex and relationship educator Reid Mihalko for an intimate conversation about the intricacies of communication, consent, and safer sex practices.
Managing Jealousy in Open Relationships with Therapist Ann Russo, Ep. 84
Navigating the complexities of non-monogamous relationships can be challenging, especially when it comes to dealing with jealousy. In this conversation, I sit down with Ann Russo, a licensed clinical social worker and therapist specializing in non-monogamous relationships, to explore the intricacies of love beyond traditional boundaries.
Shuffling Relationship Dynamics with a Deck of Cards, Ep 83
Imagine a game that sparks deep conversations, fosters understanding, and strengthens your relationships. That's exactly what the brilliant minds behind The Non Monogamy Card Game have created. This innovative tool is designed to help you explore the complexities of ethical non-monogamy, polyamory, and open relationships in a fun and approachable way.
Fluid Bonding and STI Awareness Navigating Sexual Health in Ethical Non-Monogamy with Susan Bratton
I sat down with the incomparable Susan Bratton, a true pioneer in sexual wellness and non-monogamy. With decades of experience under her belt, Susan shares her wealth of knowledge on everything from STI testing to hormone replacement therapy, offering insights that could revolutionize your sex life.
Monogamy? In this Economy? With Author Laura Boyle
Are you curious about the real-life dynamics of polyamorous relationships and co-living arrangements? Gain a candid glimpse into the practical realities of navigating multi-partner relationships, parenting, finances, and more.
Navigating Consent and Pleasure in Non-Monogamy with Jamie Love Ep. 80
This episode gives you a peek into the remarkable journey of Jamie Love, from a conservative religious background to leading a thriving, international sex-positive community, Sex Positive World. You'll hear how Jamie fosters spaces where people can explore intimacy and sexuality openly and shame-free.
The Alchemy of Pleasure: Transforming Relationships with Sasha and Moritz ep. 78
Let's be real: navigating ethical non-monogamy (ENM) can be thrilling, confusing, and sometimes downright messy. But no worries! We've got power couple Sasha and Moritz on deck to spill the tea on building a strong ENM connection.
From Strict Religion to Ceremonial Celebrations: Dan's Story Ep. 76
Imagine growing up in a world where love had strict rules, only to break free and discover endless possibilities. This is the story of Dan and Jennie, a married couple who defied societal norms to embrace ethical non-monogamy.