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I help adventurous people break the social conditioning of monogamy and learn how to navigate healthy alternative relationships with ethical non-monogamy, open relationships, polyamory, swinging, so that they can move through the challenges of jealousy, fear, anxiety, and insecurities in a way that strengthens your relationships, deepens your trust and communication, and leaves you feeling confident.

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    If “love outside the box” still leaves you feeling insecure or guilty, this workshop is for you. In 60 mins, we’ll ditch the monogamy myths, tackle jealousy head-on, and create agreements that actually work. Get ready for clarity, confidence, and more pleasure in your relationships. Replay included.

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    Breaking Free From Monogamy

    Are you ready to break free from societal norms and embrace a non-traditional approach to relationships? If so, you've come to the right place. Welcome to "Breaking Free from Monogamy," where we offer evolutionary coaching to support you in designing a life that aligns with your authentic self. We're heading on a life-changing journey towards living authentically, I am here to support you every step of the way.

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    The Jealousy Whisperer's Guide: Mastering Emotional Self-Regulation in Non-Monogamy

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    Master Your Emotions, Deepen Your Connections, and Experience the Freedom of Non-Monogamy Without the Jealous Rollercoaster

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    This is where we dismantle societal “shoulds” and create a love life that’s aligned with who you really are. You’re stepping into an authentic, expansive way of living—and I’m here to guide you every step of the way.

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    FREE Download: 10 Scripts for Every Scenario. Say No with Confidence and Compassion

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Polyamory’s Biggest Struggle Isn’t Jealousy — It’s Scheduling EP.127
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Polyamory’s Biggest Struggle Isn’t Jealousy — It’s Scheduling EP.127
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So many breakups in polyamory get blamed on “bad communication.” But what if it’s really a scheduling problem in disguise?

Richie joins me on this week’s episode to share how a cancer journey, a small ski town, and a whole lot of overlapping calendars inspired him to create PYE — a new app that makes dating, boundaries, and consent less overwhelming and way more intentional.

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Midlife, Menopause & Non-Monogamy: Reclaiming Pleasure, Power & Desire with Carla Wainwright EP. 126
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Midlife, Menopause & Non-Monogamy: Reclaiming Pleasure, Power & Desire with Carla Wainwright EP. 126
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Midlife desire isn’t a decline — it’s a second spring. In this episode of my non monogamy podcast, I talk with Carla Wainwright about menopause and sex, pleasure as medicine, and what polyamory in midlife can really look like.

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