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I help adventurous people break the social conditioning of monogamy and learn how to navigate healthy alternative relationships with ethical non-monogamy, open relationships, polyamory, swinging, so that they can move through the challenges of jealousy, fear, anxiety, and insecurities in a way that strengthens your relationships, deepens your trust and communication, and leaves you feeling confident.

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