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I help adventurous people break the social conditioning of monogamy and learn how to navigate healthy alternative relationships with ethical non-monogamy, open relationships, polyamory, swinging, so that they can move through the challenges of jealousy, fear, anxiety, and insecurities in a way that strengthens your relationships, deepens your trust and communication, and leaves you feeling confident.

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    Are you ready to break free from societal norms and embrace a non-traditional approach to relationships? If so, you've come to the right place. Welcome to "Breaking Free from Monogamy," where we offer evolutionary coaching to support you in designing a life that aligns with your authentic self. We're heading on a life-changing journey towards living authentically, I am here to support you every step of the way.

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Why You Can’t Just Talk Your Way Out of Jealousy in Polyamory (And What Actually Helps) Ep. 131
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Why You Can’t Just Talk Your Way Out of Jealousy in Polyamory (And What Actually Helps) Ep. 131
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In this episode, I’m unpacking the real reason jealousy sticks around in polyamory — even when you've “done the work.” Spoiler alert: it’s not about logic, it’s about your nervous system.

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Rewriting Your Relationship Code: Ditching the Defaults for Real Freedom, Ep. 130
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Rewriting Your Relationship Code: Ditching the Defaults for Real Freedom, Ep. 130
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Are you stuck running relationship patterns you never consciously chose? In this episode of Nope! We’re Not Monogamous, I’m breaking down how to identify the default “rules” you inherited about love, sex, and partnership, and how to rewrite them so your relationships actually work for YOU.

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