Ellecia Paine is a non-monogamy relationship coach who helps people navigate ENM (Enthusiastic non-monogamy), polyamory, open relating, swinging, kink, and life in general.

Listen in to the candid conversations that give you a peek into the inner lives of other non-monogamous folks. Hear how they've overcome challenges like jealousy, insecurity, and social scrutiny. And celebrate with them as they share all the reasons it's worth it to have relationships that don't fit in the box.

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Sexual Safety in Non-monogamy with Evalene Dacker-MD

Brace yourself for an enlightening exploration of non-monogamous relationships, sexual health, and the importance of clear communication. This episode features the insightful Evalene Dacker-MD, who guides us through the intricate world of polyamory, debunking misconceptions and arming us with invaluable advice on navigating these partnerships in a safe manner. We delve into her revolutionary STARS framework that fosters open dialogues about sex, helping individuals to express their desires, set boundaries, and communicate their relationship intentions effectively.

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Unlocking Desire: Exploring the Transformative Power of Sexual Fantasies

Understanding and embracing individual sexual fantasies is an important part of personal discovery and growth. It's about taking a dive into the depths of your personal narratives, fears, and inhibitions to bring to light your unique desires. Artemisia De Vine shares the transformative power of this process, giving insights on how exploring sexual fantasies can lead to states of enhanced consciousness and pleasure that foster self-discovery.

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Radical Honesty and Responsibility in Non-Monogamous Relationships with Leslie Tavernier, Ep. 61

Get ready for some real talk about relationships in this episode of Nope! We're Not Monogamous with guest Lesley Tavernier. We dive deep into the concept of radical responsibility and how it can transform your non-monogamous relationships. Lesley shares her personal journey and sheds light on the importance of not relying on your partner for happiness. Discover how taking control of your own well-being can create a more harmonious and fulfilling connection. If you're looking for practical advice on personal growth and increasing happiness in non-monogamous relationships, this episode is a must-listen!

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Polywise - A Deeper Dive Into Navigating Open Relationships with Jessica Fern and David Cooley

We're all human, and emotional intelligence plays a key role in how we interact with others. Jessica and David unpack the importance of knowing how to communicate your feelings and needs, especially when they become overwhelming. You'll learn the markers of drama triangle involvement, and strategies to enhance emotional and relational intelligence. This isn't just about relationships, it's about nurturing growth. We discuss practices to cultivate intimacy, the importance of curiosity in conflict resolution, and innovative techniques such as breathwork and restorative justice circles to help us stay present in difficult conversations.

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Long-Distance Love: Non-monogamy Across Continents with CJ, Ep. 59

Are you in a long-distance relationship and curious about exploring non-monogamy? Today's guest, CJ, a sex coach and pleasure advocate, walks us through their personal experience of how non-monogamy played a vital role in navigating the challenges of being apart from their partner across two continents. We take a deep look into the significance of communication, creating a non-judgmental environment, and the importance of touch in maintaining intimacy, despite the miles.

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Navigating Polyamory and Parenting, Ep. 57

Koe, a second-generation sex educator, shares her journey growing up in a polyamorous family and provides insights from her intriguing book, This Heart Holds Many: My Life as a Non-Binary Millennial of a Polyamorous Family. Koe's raw and honest storytelling paints a vivid picture of the challenges faced by children in non-monogamous families and how they're navigating societal structures and perceptions.

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Crushing Stereotypes: Exploring the Realities of Non-Monogamous Relationships

Hold onto your seats as we bring you an enlightening conversation with Rich and Siobhan, a non-monogamous couple from London and the hosts of The Poly (Pod)Cast. Learn from Rich and Siobhan's personal experiences as they navigate the challenges and triumphs of non-monogamy. Gain insights into their journey of self-discovery and understanding, and embrace the idea that each individual's path is unique.

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Shedding Labels and Overcoming Societal Expectations with Alex Cox

Join us for an eye-opening conversation with Alex Cox, where he openly shares his journey living a polyamorous life since 2018. Navigating multiple partnerships, parenting, and battling PTSD, Alex's story is both inspiring and enlightening. Tune in to discover the power of communication, the role of labels in our lives, and the beauty of embracing your true self. From shedding labels to exploring masculinity, we explore Alex's personal transformation and his thriving polyamory community. Get ready to explore a new perspective on love, relationships, and creativity in this captivating episode.

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Navigating Polyamory with Emotional Intention

We're getting real about the intricacies of being a hinge partner and what it means to be a 'unicorn' in the Swinger community. Victor shares their insights on these roles, the importance of setting boundaries versus people-pleasing, and how trauma can impact relationships. We also delve into emotional maturity, a vital element in these non-traditional relationships. We also celebrate the growth areas and the beauty that comes with breaking away from monogamous conditioning.


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A Journey of Liberation and Empowerment with Casey Donatello, Ep. 53

In this episode of Nope! We're Not Monogamous, Casey Donatello opens up about the challenges and dynamics of striving for equity in non-monogamous relationships. But just when it seems like they've found the perfect balance, a shocking twist threatens to unravel their carefully built connection. Tune in to find out what happens next.

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Delighting in Self-Connection with Lee Harrington

Are you tired of feeling disconnected from yourself and others? What if there was a way to build a unique web of relationships that truly support your well-being and growth? Well, we're here to tell you that it's possible! In my discussion with internationally known author and educator, Lee Harrington, we uncover the secrets to creating intentional, supportive relationships and fostering self-love.

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Healing and Reclaiming Power in Non-Monogamous Relationships Ep 51

Join us as we discuss the power of non-monogamous relationships and the importance of understanding our own feelings and desires before following someone else's lead. Lucy shares her experiences, mistakes, and valuable lessons she learned along the way, highlighting the concept of monogamish relationships and how to navigate open relationships while respecting everyone involved. We also touch on the challenges of finding authenticity in relationships, the impact of unresolved wounds from our past, and the importance of healing and reclaiming power after toxic relationships.

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Celebrating 50 Episodes: Exploring Relationship Escalators, Jealousy, and Growth in Non-Monogamy

Today we are celebrating a major milestone for our podcast, Nope, We're Not Monogamous: our 50th episode! To mark this occasion, I was joined by Danny, my producer, boyfriend and fellow non-monogamous adventurer. Our journey through non-monogamy has been a rollercoaster, and we were excited to revisit episodes that covered topics like decolonizing polyamory, relationship anarchy, overcoming the challenge of being vetoed, and experiencing personal growth through jealousy. We also delved into the complex world of emotions, discussing the importance of jealousy, compersion, and creating a sense of safety when opening up or transitioning into non-monogamy.

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Embracing Compersion in Your Relationships with Marie Thouin, Ep 49

Dr. Marie Thouin shares her experience with questioning the social norms around monogamy led her to exploring alternative relationship dynamics, and conducting research to help others find harmony in their own relationships. We get into what compersion is and the factors that help you achieve it and even block you from it. You're gonna hear so many good tips around compersion, including how metamours and overcoming jealousy plays into it.

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Health, Happiness, and Safe Relationships in Non- Monogamy with Nurse Dynamite, Ep 48

My guest Christina Dynamite and I  are chatting about  our intimate journeys through non-monogamy and polyamory as we share personal experiences, challenges, and triumphs in navigating their unconventional relationships. We dive deep into relationships, sexuality, and even STIs, offering practical advice and invaluable resources for listeners.

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Reclaiming Your Power Through Self-Love and Pleasure with Kim Coffin, Ep. 46

Kim and I chat about our combined insights on non monogamy and polyamory and the power of pleasure and sacred sexuality practices in empowering women, and how to break free from societal conditioning to discover true sovereignty and personal truth. Join us as we uncover the transformative power of Kim's work and learn how to reclaim your own power and your own voice. 

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Unlearning Monogamy & Embracing Queer Polyamory, Episode 45

I am talking to Lelia Gowland, a married Southern woman with a literal white picket fence, who confronted her fears and her need for anonymity to very publicly embrace her queer and polyamorous identities and discover the beauty of deep connection and authentic self expression. You will hear us talk about how the polyamory landscape has evolved over the last decade or two, and how self acceptance of your personal identities, queer, polyamorous, non monogamous, whatever they are, can affect you.  

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Intimacy and Non-Monogamy: Embracing Embodied Choices, Ep. 44

After 28 years of pure monogamy, my guest today dove into a sexuality community to explore something different during what one might call a midlife crisis, only to find herself with a primary relationship that created a load of freedom and challenged her to know the difference between her edges and her boundaries. My guest today is Kim Holden. Kim and I chat about exploring sexuality and relationship dynamics after you've been through a divorce, practicing tools to recognize your own personal yes and your own personal no when you're making decisions, and examining the difference between your edges and your boundaries in relationships.

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