Ellecia Paine is a non-monogamy relationship coach who helps people navigate ENM (Enthusiastic non-monogamy), polyamory, open relating, swinging, kink, and life in general.

Listen in to the candid conversations that give you a peek into the inner lives of other non-monogamous folks. Hear how they've overcome challenges like jealousy, insecurity, and social scrutiny. And celebrate with them as they share all the reasons it's worth it to have relationships that don't fit in the box.

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Why 2025 is the Year to Let Go of Jealousy, ep 92

Ever felt that sudden pang of jealousy when scrolling through social media or hearing your partner mention a new name? You're not alone. In this eye-opening episode, I dive deep into the often misunderstood emotion of jealousy and how we can transform it from a source of pain into a powerful tool for personal growth and deeper connections.

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Reclaiming Your Power Through Self-Love and Pleasure with Kim Coffin, Ep. 46

Kim and I chat about our combined insights on non monogamy and polyamory and the power of pleasure and sacred sexuality practices in empowering women, and how to break free from societal conditioning to discover true sovereignty and personal truth. Join us as we uncover the transformative power of Kim's work and learn how to reclaim your own power and your own voice. 

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The Importance of Human Connection and Sex Work, Ep. 35

I am talking with my friend Numina Mara. Numina is a fantastic human and we had an amazing conversation that covered her love of the courtesan lifestyle, her experience in the sex industry, and what decriminalizing it could mean. This conversation is juicy and if you aren’t already a patron, you should do it because her sex tip is even juicier!

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Finding Yourself in Non-Monogamy, Ep. 32

Emily is the author of Please Make Me Love Me, an intimate memoir of opening her relationship, coming into a queer identity, forming multiple intense, long-term relationships, and ultimately, learning to live by her own terms. She expresses herself so beautifully and, in this conversation, shares from such a heartfelt place her journey from monogamy to non-monogamy to monogamy, and finding herself along the way.

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Good Girls Talk About Non-Monogamy, with Leah Carey, Ep. 31

Leah is a sex and intimacy coach and she's the host of Good Girls Talk About Sex. We talk about her evolution from someone who didn't talk about sex and who was very sexually repressed to someone who talks about sex a lot, very publicly. We also talk a lot about learning to share your needs and she shares her experiences and a tool for you to try at home!

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Starting Out Strong: First Steps to ENM, Ep. 21

This week I am speaking with Dr. Joli Hamilton. This is one of my favorite episodes that I've recorded yet. Meeting someone whose journey feels so similar to my own is so validating and is really what I hope to provide for so many of you the listeners.

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Vikings, Vulnerability, and Polyamory, Ep. 20

Today, I am speaking with Ragnar, the modern viking! He shares with us his Viking longship analogy about relationships and my mind was kind of blown. We also get into how polyamory helped him break the cycle of abuse and become a much more vulnerable human and his personal journey of identifying as and coming out as a polyamorous person.


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A Unicorn's Story, Ep. 17

My guest today is talking about her first ever visit to a sex club, her first ever polyamorous experience as a unicorn, and the biggest lessons she’s learned this last year in her journey to ethical non-monogamy. Kelsie Riffey can be found by day domming the business world, assisting high achieving women and scaling their businesses to seven figures and beyond, and by night you can find her on the middle of the dance floor hips swaying, fully liberated and expressed.

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The Pillars of Polyamory with Deana Tanner, EP 16

I talk with Deana Tanner about the five main pillars of polyamory: autonomy, personal responsibility, boundaries, effective communication and understanding emotions. We talk about growing up polyamorous, creating healthy relationships, and how to identify what you really want to make informed decisions.

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Swinger Events and Hotel Takeovers with Ying Ying Lee, EP. 15

Today I am talking with Ying Ying Lee. Ying Ying founded SOP Lifestyle Productions, with a vision to create fun, unique & sensual getaways and vacations where attendees can be comfortable exploring new things and expanding their knowledge and experiences. We talk about her journey to non monogamy, the spectrum from swinging to polyamorous, what happens inside a hotel takeover, and she answers the questions we get asked most frequently about swinger events!

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Taming The Green Eyed Monster, Jealousy Ep.14

In today’s episode, I'm sharing with you a recent workshop I did on taming the green eyed monster, jealousy. I'm talking to you about the overwhelming primal fear that takes over when you're feeling jealous and how to work through it without blowing up your relationships in the process, going from panic to calm and rational from feeling sure that you're being betrayed to feeling confidence and inner peace. You will get loads of resources and nuggets so you can learn from my experience.

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Sexual Safety in Non-Monogamy Ep. 13

I have the pleasure of speaking with Evelin Dacker. We have a juicy conversation on creating sexual safety in non-monogamy. She tackles the most asked questions from my listeners on STIs, new relationship energy and she breaks down STARS, and how she uses it to create healthy relationships and communication around sex.

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The Sexiness of Communication Ep.11

Part 2 of an amazing conversation I had with Leanne and Greg Million. We continue our conversation with some really juicy sex tips, my enm playlist, and we also talk about how polyamory forces us to learn how to repair relationship ruptures in a way that most of us didn't learn in monogamous relationships.

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Relationship Autonomy & the Power of Words Ep.10

I am sharing Part 1 of an amazing conversation I had with Leanne and Greg Million. We talk about non monogamy and all of its forms-- the differences between consensual non-monogamy, ethical non-monogamy, polyamory, solo polyamory, relationship anarchy, swinging, and the real power to be gained with relational autonomy. There's some really beautiful advice for dealing with jealousy and hear what happens when you put three coaches in a room with each other.

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Digging Into Insecurities

The story of how a couple of high school sweethearts from a small town in the Midwest wound up in a committed married polyamorous quad, living in the Pacific Northwest.

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Blending Polyamorous Families

We talk about triads and the assumptions people make about them, monogamous deconditioning we have to work through when moving into polyamory, and raising kids and polyamorous families, and just a lot of really in depth, juicy stuff.

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Polyamory and Divorce

In this episode, I talk with Mags Baker, a polyamorous, non-binary, sexy divorcée living their best life in San Francisco. They work one-on-one with people to help them find freedom, gain clarity and manifest their juiciest desires. Currently, mags works with folks healing from divorce through healing journeys, intensives, and retreats. They are often found leading sex-positive dance parties on zoom, teaching masterclasses, and hosting live guided meditations.

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Dating and Polyamory

Kari Lu Cowell is a Dating Coach for Nerds. She helps people feel authentically comfortable and confident with dating so they can find the relationships of their dreams. She works with all relationship desires, specializing in people who seek non-traditional relationships like kink, BDSM, ethical non-monogamy, Sugar Daddy/sugar baby, etc.

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