Today we are celebrating a major milestone for our podcast, Nope, We're Not Monogamous: our 50th episode! To mark this occasion, I was joined by Danny, my producer, boyfriend and fellow non-monogamous adventurer. Our journey through non-monogamy has been a rollercoaster, and we were excited to revisit episodes that covered topics like decolonizing polyamory, relationship anarchy, overcoming the challenge of being vetoed, and experiencing personal growth through jealousy. We also delved into the complex world of emotions, discussing the importance of jealousy, compersion, and creating a sense of safety when opening up or transitioning into non-monogamy.

Dr. Marie Thouin shares her experience with questioning the social norms around monogamy led her to exploring alternative relationship dynamics, and conducting research to help others find harmony in their own relationships. We get into what compersion is and the factors that help you achieve it and even block you from it. You're gonna hear so many good tips around compersion, including how metamours and overcoming jealousy plays into it.

My guest Christina Dynamite and I  are chatting about  our intimate journeys through non-monogamy and polyamory as we share personal experiences, challenges, and triumphs in navigating their unconventional relationships. We dive deep into relationships, sexuality, and even STIs, offering practical advice and invaluable resources for listeners.

I am talking to life and relationship coach, Randi Robbins, about some of the various forms of non monogamous relationships and how to manage the exciting and sometimes overwhelming emotions that come with NRE, new relationship energy. 

Kim and I chat about our combined insights on non monogamy and polyamory and the power of pleasure and sacred sexuality practices in empowering women, and how to break free from societal conditioning to discover true sovereignty and personal truth. Join us as we uncover the transformative power of Kim's work and learn how to reclaim your own power and your own voice. 

I am talking to Lelia Gowland, a married Southern woman with a literal white picket fence, who confronted her fears and her need for anonymity to very publicly embrace her queer and polyamorous identities and discover the beauty of deep connection and authentic self expression. You will hear us talk about how the polyamory landscape has evolved over the last decade or two, and how self acceptance of your personal identities, queer, polyamorous, non monogamous, whatever they are, can affect you.  

After 28 years of pure monogamy, my guest today dove into a sexuality community to explore something different during what one might call a midlife crisis, only to find herself with a primary relationship that created a load of freedom and challenged her to know the difference between her edges and her boundaries. My guest today is Kim Holden. Kim and I chat about exploring sexuality and relationship dynamics after you've been through a divorce, practicing tools to recognize your own personal yes and your own personal no when you're making decisions, and examining the difference between your edges and your boundaries in relationships.

Sara and I are talking about her experiences with polyamory and some of mine too! We covering coming out to family and friends as polyamorous, how polyamorous people might handle breakups of their partners, and how to deal with metamour relationships. Dr. Sara Sohn, DPT, PT, WCS is a highly accomplished and experienced pelvic floor physical therapist, sex counselor, and mentor for leaders working in taboo areas. 

I’m chatting with Kyra Gilchrist, a relationship anarchist and solo polyamory advocate. Kyra shares with us how she coped with the aftermath of being vetoed from the relationship that she was in when she was last on the show in episode nine. She describes how being vetoed can be traumatic, how she coped with it, and the tools and skills that she learned working through it. 

Domina Anne Shirley coaches people on how to be the Dominant in their own lives. Today, she shares her struggles with the idea of non-monogamy and we talk about the different facets of dominance and submission as well as how empowering non-monogamy can be.  We discuss the importance of finding safety and trust within oneself, and I share my own exploration of power dynamics. 

Emily is a pagan, polyamorous pansexual parent who I adore. She shares her story of non-monogamy, what it's like to find other polyamorous people to connect with, and we talk about how important it is to discuss the wants and needs of each partner, and figure out how to fulfill them in a way that's mutually satisfying!

We talk about her story from growing up in a non-traditional household to spending seven years intentionally celibate before then starting to date and engage in polyamorous relationships. She talks about how people in polyamorous relationships deal with their jealousy and the challenges that are involved in untangling your genuine feelings from societal programming so that you can be authentically yourself in relationships.

Eleanor O’Brien is the artistic director of Dance Naked Creative, a sex-positive theater and event company.   She is a writer, performer and facilitator.  We talk about her journey from monogamy to non-monogamy, how polyamory helped her expand her sexuality, and how writing a show about polyamory helped her overcome some of the challenges during that transition.   Eleanor O'Brien starts a journey of non-monogamy and discovers that it's harder than it looks, especially when she begins to fall in love with someone other than her husband.

This week I am talking with relationship anarchist and solo polyamorous person, Isha Vela. Isha and I talk about how they came to understand and embrace non-monogamy as part of their identity, how you can use somatic practices in non-monogamy, and what non-monogamy looks like in different parts of your life.
"When I began loving in that way, it felt very much like coming home. It felt very much like, oh, this has always felt normal to me."

Today, I'm talking to Dr. Joli Hamilton, again! We had such a great time on Episode 21 that we decided to do it all over again! We're talking about how to differentiate your needs and wants and desires and how that shows up in long term relationships that are opening up or have been open for a while. We touch on how we deal with jealousy and how to use our reactions to dig deeper into what’s changing in ourselves.

I am talking with my friend Numina Mara. Numina is a fantastic human and we had an amazing conversation that covered her love of the courtesan lifestyle, her experience in the sex industry, and what decriminalizing it could mean. This conversation is juicy and if you aren’t already a patron, you should do it because her sex tip is even juicier!

Kelli is the co founder and CEO of Soulfire productions, a podcast network for thought leaders, free thinkers and visionaries. Kelli and I chat about jealousy, opening a relationship, what changes happen when you get pregnant and how hormones affect your sex drive and the openness of a relationship and how she and her husband have navigated that.

This week’s episode is a little different! Today I am sharing a conversation with my girlfriend, Salena. We are giving you an inside look at the evolution of our relationship and how we have both discovered and came to terms with our queerness, navigated group sex, and STI convos. Enjoy!

Emily is the author of Please Make Me Love Me, an intimate memoir of opening her relationship, coming into a queer identity, forming multiple intense, long-term relationships, and ultimately, learning to live by her own terms. She expresses herself so beautifully and, in this conversation, shares from such a heartfelt place her journey from monogamy to non-monogamy to monogamy, and finding herself along the way.

Leah is a sex and intimacy coach and she's the host of Good Girls Talk About Sex. We talk about her evolution from someone who didn't talk about sex and who was very sexually repressed to someone who talks about sex a lot, very publicly. We also talk a lot about learning to share your needs and she shares her experiences and a tool for you to try at home!