Stop Compromising, Start Collaborating: A New Approach to Non-Monogamy Ep. 113

Tired of misunderstandings, silent resentment, or agreements that leave you feeling unseen?

In this episode, we unpack the real difference between collaboration and compromise—and how building intentional, values-based agreements in non-monogamy can transform your relationships.

💬 Because assuming = conflict waiting to happen.
💛 Collaboration = connection, clarity, and care.

What You’ll Learn:

✔️ Why Assumptions Create Emotional Landmines
And how to avoid them with clear, compassionate communication.

✔️ The Difference Between True Collaboration & Self-Sacrifice
Spoiler: Giving up what matters to you isn’t love—it’s burnout waiting to happen.

✔️ 5 Practical Steps to Create Solid Agreements
From identifying shared values to scheduling regular check-ins that actually work.

✔️ How Cultural Conditioning Shapes Our Agreements
Learn to spot and dismantle the “martyr mindset” many of us were raised with.

✔️ Real Stories, Real Struggles, Real Solutions
Hear personal and client experiences where agreement-making went wrong—and how they turned it around.

Whether you're just opening your relationship or years into non-monogamy…

This episode will give you tools to stop guessing, start asking, and co-create a love that honors everyone involved.

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