Helping you create the relationships you’ve always wanted
I am a sex, love, and relationship coach. I help people connect deeply to themselves and their partners, while exploring relationships that don’t fit in the box. This is my mission in life because I am changing the social narrative on what a relationship is “supposed” to be.
It makes me absolutely devastated that so many couples aren’t connecting at their deepest level. They are hiding parts of themselves; their deepest desires, their sexual fantasies, the things they think their partner won’t accept about them. I know what that feels like because I used to be disconnected from my true, sexual self. I felt hollow inside, trapped, and felt like something essential was missing in my life.
I read tips and tricks in magazines for how to have the best sex, how to keep the spark alive, how to “feel closer to your man!” but it didn’t work, and I judged myself. I thought there was something wrong with me. I was “supposed” to be content with my “one and only” forever and ever! Well, I then decided to share my desires with my partner, and we explored what it means to be deeply in love-but not necessarily monogamous!
Since then, I have explored my body, mind and sexuality. We have navigated the ups and downs that come with breaking down our social conditioning, diving deep into the roots of jealousy, and creating super open communication. I completed a top-notch sex coaching certification, practice Tantric and Taoist sex practices, and even guide folks with some really kick-ass group sex choreography!
With practice and patience, I have found deep connection, profound love, adventurous sex, and healing transformation.
Amazing pleasure, orgasms, freedom, expression, and a vibrant relationship with yourself and your partners await.
COACHING
SET YOURSELF FREE!
In my work as a coach, I see people who lack sexual confidence and empowerment, have beliefs dominated by social conditioning about what a relationship “should” look like, and have fear and shame around their true desires.
That’s all BS – this is not our true and authentic way to live as loving, sexual beings!
With practical and powerful tools and practices, I help my clients gain clarity on their desires and find the safety, security, and confidence to share that with their partners.
When you partner with me in coaching, we work together to build a relationship that feels so deeply loving and connected, while you explore what non-monogamy means for you. We will work to clear jealousies and insecurities while supporting the inner structures in your psyche, body and emotions so that you can thrive in your sexuality and love.
My private Transformational Coaching Package includes 5 months of sessions and you can work with me from anywhere in the world. Our sessions are online via video meetings which allows you to be in the safety and comfort of your home and bedroom.
I take you through mind provoking coaching conversations, guide you through emotional liberation practices and tailor homework practices that support your connections and sexual growth.
What my clients have to say
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She taught me so much about myself. Reassured me when the whole world around me felt shaky. She helped me sit across from my husband and gaze into him for a long long time, and that was the most exquisite feeling. We found our way back to our center and Ellecia Paine was equally our guide, friend and coach. Please call her. It will improve your relationships.
Jennie
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We've been able to open up our relationship in a way that feels healthy and grounded. Less jealousy – and when it does arise, better ways to communicate about it and hold each other through it. Realizing that just because I have challenging feelings or thoughts come up around opening up, it doesn't mean that it's not for me It's just a natural part of the process, and to really check in with myself about what I want to work towards.
Anne
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I worked with Ellecia as I was going through a difficult time of life, struggling to truly find my inner self as a Dominant Male in a way that was truly authentic to who and what I was. She was very warm and understanding, and really helped me weed through so much life programming I didn’t realize was impacting how I wanted to live my life. Through her exercises and talks, I was able to really dig deep within myself and reclaim my identity. While we as people are always a work in progress, I would never have been able to redefine what my energy would be without her assistance. Definitely recommend, on a scale of 1-10, she’s at least a 12!
Corey
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It was amazing. She really helped me understand the origins of a lot of my negative thoughts around relationships and heal some deep wounds. The work empowered me to love myself, know that I am enough, and step into the qualities that allowed me to pursue the meaningful romantic relationships that I’ve so deeply desired for so long. I cannot possibly recommend her highly enough to express my gratitude for the work she led me through ❤️
Jessica
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