Ellecia Paine is a non-monogamy relationship coach who helps people navigate ENM (Enthusiastic non-monogamy), polyamory, open relating, swinging, kink, and life in general.

Listen in to the candid conversations that give you a peek into the inner lives of other non-monogamous folks. Hear how they've overcome challenges like jealousy, insecurity, and social scrutiny. And celebrate with them as they share all the reasons it's worth it to have relationships that don't fit in the box.

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How to Turn Jealousy Into a Tool for Growth, Ep. 93

Have you ever felt that knot in your stomach when your partner laughs a little too hard with someone new? Or that tightness in your chest when they're excited about a fresh connection? Jealousy can be an unwelcome guest in our emotional landscape, especially in non-monogamous relationships. But what if I told you that this intense feeling isn't your enemy, but potentially one of your most powerful allies?

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Why 2025 is the Year to Let Go of Jealousy, ep 92

Ever felt that sudden pang of jealousy when scrolling through social media or hearing your partner mention a new name? You're not alone. In this eye-opening episode, I dive deep into the often misunderstood emotion of jealousy and how we can transform it from a source of pain into a powerful tool for personal growth and deeper connections.

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Embracing Your True Self: The Journey Through Non-Monogamy, Jealousy, and Sacred Rage with Sandra Possing EP. 66

If you're feeling suffocated by societal expectations and constantly striving to fit in, then you are not alone! You may already be sacrificing your true self in order to please others, only to find that it's still not enough. You may be experiencing a constant sense of dissatisfaction, despite following the rules and norms that society has set for you. It's time to break free from the cycle of conformity and embrace your unique identity, because the result you're seeking is not found in conformity.

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Long-Distance Love: Non-monogamy Across Continents with CJ, Ep. 59

Are you in a long-distance relationship and curious about exploring non-monogamy? Today's guest, CJ, a sex coach and pleasure advocate, walks us through their personal experience of how non-monogamy played a vital role in navigating the challenges of being apart from their partner across two continents. We take a deep look into the significance of communication, creating a non-judgmental environment, and the importance of touch in maintaining intimacy, despite the miles.

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Crushing Stereotypes: Exploring the Realities of Non-Monogamous Relationships

Hold onto your seats as we bring you an enlightening conversation with Rich and Siobhan, a non-monogamous couple from London and the hosts of The Poly (Pod)Cast. Learn from Rich and Siobhan's personal experiences as they navigate the challenges and triumphs of non-monogamy. Gain insights into their journey of self-discovery and understanding, and embrace the idea that each individual's path is unique.

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Navigating Polyamory with Emotional Intention

We're getting real about the intricacies of being a hinge partner and what it means to be a 'unicorn' in the Swinger community. Victor shares their insights on these roles, the importance of setting boundaries versus people-pleasing, and how trauma can impact relationships. We also delve into emotional maturity, a vital element in these non-traditional relationships. We also celebrate the growth areas and the beauty that comes with breaking away from monogamous conditioning.


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Healing and Reclaiming Power in Non-Monogamous Relationships Ep 51

Join us as we discuss the power of non-monogamous relationships and the importance of understanding our own feelings and desires before following someone else's lead. Lucy shares her experiences, mistakes, and valuable lessons she learned along the way, highlighting the concept of monogamish relationships and how to navigate open relationships while respecting everyone involved. We also touch on the challenges of finding authenticity in relationships, the impact of unresolved wounds from our past, and the importance of healing and reclaiming power after toxic relationships.

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Celebrating 50 Episodes: Exploring Relationship Escalators, Jealousy, and Growth in Non-Monogamy

Today we are celebrating a major milestone for our podcast, Nope, We're Not Monogamous: our 50th episode! To mark this occasion, I was joined by Danny, my producer, boyfriend and fellow non-monogamous adventurer. Our journey through non-monogamy has been a rollercoaster, and we were excited to revisit episodes that covered topics like decolonizing polyamory, relationship anarchy, overcoming the challenge of being vetoed, and experiencing personal growth through jealousy. We also delved into the complex world of emotions, discussing the importance of jealousy, compersion, and creating a sense of safety when opening up or transitioning into non-monogamy.

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Love Outside of the Romance Novel with Eleanor O’Brien, Ep. 38

Eleanor O’Brien is the artistic director of Dance Naked Creative, a sex-positive theater and event company.   She is a writer, performer and facilitator.  We talk about her journey from monogamy to non-monogamy, how polyamory helped her expand her sexuality, and how writing a show about polyamory helped her overcome some of the challenges during that transition.   Eleanor O'Brien starts a journey of non-monogamy and discovers that it's harder than it looks, especially when she begins to fall in love with someone other than her husband.

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The Power of Wants and Needs in Relationships, Ep. 36

Today, I'm talking to Dr. Joli Hamilton, again! We had such a great time on Episode 21 that we decided to do it all over again! We're talking about how to differentiate your needs and wants and desires and how that shows up in long term relationships that are opening up or have been open for a while. We touch on how we deal with jealousy and how to use our reactions to dig deeper into what’s changing in ourselves.

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Sexy, Confident Non-Monogamy, Ep. 27

I'm talking to Tia Lynn, the Sexy Biz Babe who helps women own their confidence and power in the bedroom and the boardroom. We have a really great conversation around overcoming shame, enjoying things for yourself, and experiencing compersion.

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Taming The Green Eyed Monster, Jealousy Ep.14

In today’s episode, I'm sharing with you a recent workshop I did on taming the green eyed monster, jealousy. I'm talking to you about the overwhelming primal fear that takes over when you're feeling jealous and how to work through it without blowing up your relationships in the process, going from panic to calm and rational from feeling sure that you're being betrayed to feeling confidence and inner peace. You will get loads of resources and nuggets so you can learn from my experience.

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The Spectrum of ENM Ep 12

In today’s episode I talk with Michael Love. He is the former publisher of ENM Magazine and PDXScene Magazine. Michael fancies himself an ambassador and advocate of Ethical Non-monogamy. Together with his nesting partners, they run a thriving online ENM Support Community that embraces all forms of Ethical Non-Monogamy, and host the ENM Talk Podcast show. We talk about the spectrum of non-monogamy, what it’s like to be able to celebrate your partner’s relationships, and our journeys to Ethical Non-Monogamy.

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