Decolonizing Polyamory & Relationship Anarchy, Ep. 9

I'm no expert on racism. But I am a person who's always learning and growing and challenging my own internalized racism. I consider this podcast and my other platforms to be absolutely anti-racist. So while this may not be a topic I address very often it is a topic that I feel passionately about. 

So today I'm sharing a conversation I had with my friend Kyra. Kyra is a solo poly relationship anarchist and a person of color who's passionate about hard cider and social justice. She is a child care and birth worker of color living in Seattle with her two cats and her turtle and in her spare time she grounds herself with reading and nature and loved ones, and is just a phenomenal human being. I'm really excited to share this conversation with you. Enjoy.

πŸ’¨ TLDR;

  • 1:36 - What is Relationship Anarchy?

  • 3:49 - Deconstructing a religious conservative upbringing

  • 9:08 - Dating as a Solo Polyamorous Relationship Anarchist

  • 13:52- Misconceptions around polyamory and sexism

  • 21:25- Racism and Decolonizing Relationships

  • 31:11- Rupture and Repair in relationships

  • 40:59- How Racism Effects Relationships

  • 52:53- Unlearning Monogamy

  • 59:37- Resources for Decolonizing Polyamory

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πŸ“š Books and resources mentioned:  POC ENM resources:

Instagram: 

https://instagram.com/marjanilane?utm_medium=copy_link

https://instagram.com/bygabriellesmith?utm_medium=copy_link

https://instagram.com/lavitaloca34?utm_medium=copy_link

https://instagram.com/polyphiliablog?utm_medium=copy_link

Facebook: 

https://www.facebook.com/lavitalocasawyers

https://www.facebook.com/polyphiliablog/

https://www.facebook.com/polyamorousblackgirl

https://m.facebook.com/polyamwhileasian/

Group for BIPOC and allies: https://www.facebook.com/groups/blackpolyamory/?ref=share

Other media resources: 

Dr. Kim Tallbear exploring how to decolonize polyamory and sex 

All My Relations Podcast 

http://blackyouthproject.com/black-women-face-greater-scrutiny-than-white-women-for-being-polyamorous/

Loves Not Colorblind

https://www.huffingtonpost.ca/entry/polyamory-poc-canadians_ca_5dcc504ee4b03a7e0293f014

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.latimes.com/entertainment-arts/tv/story/2021-04-29/willow-smith-polyamorous-red-table-talk%3F_amp%3Dtrue


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- Editor/Producer: Danny Walters. 

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Ellecia Paine is a non-monogamy relationship coach who helps people navigate ENM (enthusiastic non-monogamy), polyamory, open relating, swinging, kink, and life in general.

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