Are you Excited, curious, and intrigued by the possibilities of an open relationship?
Doors to Ecstatic Expansion into Ethical Non-monogamy Now Open!
What if I told you…
You can absolutely feel clear and confident in your relationship choices and agreements so that you will know you are keeping yourself and your partner safe and secure in whatever relationship structure you choose, whether that’s an open relationship, polyamory, swinging, or any other form of non-monogamy.
Just imagine the possibilities!
Do you feel scared or unsure about opening your relationship?
Do you worry you might be making a mistake?
❔Do you have secret fears that your partner might find someone who is more skilled or a better match for them and leave you?
❔And what will people think? If friends and family find out, will they think you are splitting up? Or worse…cheating?
❔Are you worried about opening Pandora's box and being unable to close it back up?
The mixture of fear and excitement (fearcitement) is almost too much. It’s hard to pull the feelings apart and it can feel really unsettling.
You want this, but you feel like if you want it tooo much it might ruin the life you have.
You want this for yourself, but the fear of losing your person is so damn strong.
I’ve been there!
I know how scary it feels to be stepping outside the box of socially acceptable relationships.
I know how hard it can be to find friends who understand what you're doing and why you're doing it.
When I decided I never wanted to be monogamous again, that decision didn't magically give me more confidence. It didn't eliminate my jealous feelings and my insecurities. It certainly didn't make me a less possessive person.
Damnit, I wanted ALLLLL the good things without all the hard feelings!
Have you started reading all the books and listening to all the podcasts, but it feels like they are talking to people who have different circumstances from you?
That was totally my experience. I found a lot of information that felt like it was written for people who wanted different types of relationships from me or were in a different place in life from me. I felt like I had to translate it all to my particular situation and hope I didn’t fuck it up.
I did all this work and research and practice so that you don’t have to! I’m here to share it all with you and make it specific to YOUR relationships.
Doing this work led me to feeling soooo secure in my relationship while also enjoying all of the juicy, fun things that I wanted out of having an open relationship.
I learned how to navigate all the big feelings that came up, like feeling jealous of the other people my partner would date, and the huge fear that I would be abandoned for someone who was a better match for him, and the guilt I felt over wanting to have all the fun but not wanting to “share” my partner.
And on the flip side I learned how to hold space for my partners feelings that were similar, but also very different from my own.
My clients have come to me at many different stages in their relationships, but what they all have in common is that they are navigating a transition. Whether you are just starting to talk about opening up, have been talking about it for years, or if you have already begun in the last year or so, I’m here to give you personalized support to take the trial and error out of this adventure.
Like J. who opened her relationship to casually play with her husband and a friend. When all the feels started to form I helped the three of them navigate what that would look like without following our social standard of needing to choose between two loves, without anyone becoming broken hearted.
Another client, A., was going back and forth with their partner. Open, closed, open, closed, what are we even doing here? We worked together to create a deeper sense of security and a clear vision for where they were headed in their relationship. One of them wanted the occasional sexy fling while the other one wanted to really know the soul of anyone they got intimate with and this was creating turmoil that they couldn’t have predicted until they were in over their heads.
These kinds of stories are so normal and common and together we can navigate the flow so that you can have all the fun you have been fantasizing about.
Open: Ecstatic Expansion Into Non-Monogamy will teach you…
◽How to get clear on EXACTLY what you are doing and why so that you can avoid arguments and mistakes.
◽The agreements and boundaries that MUST be in place for the security of your relationship.
◽Exactly how to talk to your partner about your desires and fears so that you can be on the same page and work together on your shared vision for the future.
◽How fast or slow you “should” be moving so that you don’t leave each other in the dust.
◽The things you never would have thought of until they were creating a problem and causing fights.
◽How to solve the problems you’ve run into without “closing” the relationship
◽The most missed steps when opening a relationship so that you can avoid the mistakes most people make when opening up.
◽Sexual safety essentials in non-monogamy and how to communicate them so that you can stay physically safe.
◽Exactly how to talk to potential/new partners
◽The Who, What, When, Where, & Why of ENM
◽Everything you thought you already knew about consent, but actually didn’t
◽How to navigate your different desires from your partners desires
OPEN:
Ecstatic Expansion into Ethical Non-monogamy includes:
✅ 4 exclusive educational modules that walk you through the pieces of opening your relationship that you DO NOT want to miss. These are the things that we take for granted in monogamous relationships, but can definitely lead to break-ups and unhappiness in non-monogamy if you miss these steps.
✅ A 90 minute custom CLARITY Call with me to guide you through getting crystal clear on where your relationship is going with this huge step and how to get there in a way that leaves you feeling closer, more connected, and sexier than ever.
✅ A second 90 minute call after you have absorbed all the wisdom I can share where we will work together to create agreements and set expectations that will make sure you are on the most ecstatic path to expansion.
✅PLUS, a bonus of 4 weeks inside the Volley text app to ask Q&A questions as you go through the program content and create your open relationship agreements (to work with me in Volley for 4 weeks is normally $1000 - yours free when you join the program now!) The only way you get this much daily access to me normally is inside my 1:1 VIP $6,900 program, so this is the HIGHEST level of support you'll ever receive outside of my 1:1 package (it's THAT good!).
This program is normally $1,800, but when you join now, you'll receive the program on a special sale price of $888 for the entire 4 weeks of content modules and Volley support this week only 👇
PLUS, a bonus of 4 weeks inside the Volley text app to ask Q&A questions as you go through the program content and create your open relationship agreements (to work with me in Volley for 4 weeks is normally $1000 - yours free when you join the program now!) The only way you get this much daily access to me normally is inside my 1:1 VIP $6,900 program, so this is the HIGHEST level of support you'll ever receive outside of my 1:1 package (it's THAT good!).
What happens when you enroll? F.A.Q.
What happens when we enroll?
When you enroll you’ll receive a welcome email with the link to schedule your first call with me where we will get clear on exactly what your relationship purpose is. You’ll also begin receiving 4 weeks of audio drops and worksheets (once a week) to go over with your partner to begin creating your expansive relationship agreements. Then you’ll schedule our final call where we will work together to hone your expansive relationship agreements.
Do we need to already be non-monogamous or have an open relationship or be fully decided?
Nope! This can be a part of that process. I have many clients who are looking for the solution to a problem and non-monogamy is just one of the possibilities. Sometimes there’s a better solution for the couple and sometimes opening up is exactly the right move. That’s a part of what I’m here to help you get clear on.
What if we already opened up?
Great! I’m here for that as well. My guess is that if you are here, things aren’t going quite as smoothly as you had hoped or you still have a lot of questions. Or maybe some very unexpected things have popped up that you need support navigating. I’ve seen it all and am happy to go there with you.
What if I’m single, but I know I don’t want to be monogamous?
Great! What better way to begin a relationship than exactly how you want it. Most, if not all of what I cover is a brilliant place to begin relationships. I will tailor the program to suit you exactly where you are at.
If you don't yet know me, I'm Ellecia, the non-monogamous certified sex, love, & relationship coach - I help adventurous people break the social conditioning of monogamy and learn how to navigate healthy alternative relationships with ethical non-monogamy, open relationships, polyamory, swinging, and more so that you can move through the challenges of jealousy, fear, anxiety, and insecurities in a way that strengthens your relationships, deepens your trust and communication, and leaves you feeling confident.
As someone who used to identify as VERY jealous and possessive, intentionally choosing to live non-monogamously for the last 8 years has been challenging, growth inducing, and extremely rewarding. I believe that we have the ability to live life outside the box of our conditioning and the expectations of people who aren't living your life for you, but it takes deep work and healing to get there. If you are on this journey as well, then I am so excited to welcome you! 💜