Hey! I’m Ellecia, Your guide to the adventure of a lifetime… an open relationship.

My Beliefs

I believe sex is good for the soul.
I believe monogamy should be a choice rather than a default.
I believe relationships should make you a better person through communication, connection, and compassion.
I believe it is imperative to heal your childhood wounds.
I believe in magic, especially sex magic.
I believe we should design the relationships we want, rather than conforming to what society expects from us.

I believe “family” can look however you want it to.
I believe we have an unlimited capacity for love.
I believe that my choice to be non-monogamous in my relationships means I have to hold myself to a higher standard.
I believe that my children benefit from seeing healthy, loving relationships modeled for them daily.
I believe that you can stay deeply connected, secure, and in love while experiencing and exploring an open relationship.

Who I Am

I am a sex, love, and relationship coach. I help people connect deeply to themselves and their partners, while exploring relationships that don’t fit in the box. This is my mission in life because I am changing the social narrative on what a relationship is “supposed” to be.

It makes me absolutely devastated that so many couples aren’t connecting at their deepest level. They are hiding parts of themselves; their deepest desires, their sexual fantasies, the things they think their partner won’t accept about them. I know what that feels like because I used to be disconnected from my true, sexual self. I felt hollow inside, trapped, and felt like something essential was missing in my life.

I read tips and tricks in magazines for how to have the best sex, how to keep the spark alive, how to “feel closer to your man!” but it didn’t work, and I judged myself. I thought there was something wrong with me. I was “supposed” to be content with my “one and only” forever and ever! Well, I then decided to share my desires with my partner, and we explored what it means to be deeply in love-but not necessarily monogamous!

Since then, I have explored my body, mind and sexuality. We have navigated the ups and downs that come with breaking down our social conditioning, diving deep into the roots of jealousy, and creating super open communication. I completed a top-notch sex coaching certification, practice Tantric and Taoist sex practices, and even guide folks with some really kick-ass group sex choreography!

With practice and patience, I have found deep connection, profound love, adventurous sex, and healing transformation.

Amazing pleasure, orgasms, freedom, expression, and a vibrant relationship with yourself and your partners await.

Kind Words From my Clients

Ellecia helped me learn I had to trust myself to be worthy of the love he was giving me. Once I could do that I could actually feel loved in a way that he'd been trying to show me for our entire relationship including all 11 years of monogamy. I had to know I was worthy. Some wise woman told me that once upon a time. 😘

-Jules

We've been able to open up our relationship in a way that feels healthy and grounded. Less jealousy – and when it does arise, better ways to communicate about it and hold each other through it. Realizing that just because I have challenging feelings or thoughts come up around opening up, it doesn't mean that it's not for me It's just a natural part of the process, and to really check in with myself about what I want to work towards.

-Anne

Ellecia helped my primary partner when she first started struggling with polyamory. She is an excellent coach and I recommend her programs to anyone looking to improve their relationships with the polyamory philosophy.

-Ragnar Craigsson

I did 6 ( I think) weeks of relationship coaching with Ellecia Paine earlier this year. It was amazing. She really helped me understand the origins of a lot of my negative thoughts around relationships and heal some deep wounds. The work empowered me to love myself, know that I am enough, and step into the qualities that allowed me to pursue the meaningful romantic relationships that I’ve so deeply desired for so long. I cannot possibly recommend her highly enough to express my gratitude for the work she led me through ❤️

-Jessica L.

Ellecia has a deep well of lived experience that is invaluable for couples thinking of opening up their relationship. No matter what we brought to session, Ellecia totally got what was coming up for each of us and helped us understand each other's experiences on a deeper level. She also gave us simple, super-effective tools to help us build trust, better communicate, and to regulate our nervous systems when intense emotions arose. Finally, her light-hearted and joyous presence made it so we actually wanted to do the practices and show up for sessions!

-A&A

She taught me so much about myself. Reassured me when the whole world around me felt shaky. She helped me sit across from my husband and gaze into him for a long long time, and that was the most exquisite feeling. We found our way back to our center and Ellecia Paine was equally our guide, friend and coach. Please call her. It will improve your relationships.

-Jennie

I learned to not push past my own boundaries, but to feel into what feels aligned for me. To slow down and to feel more comfortable in the uncertain. To recognize that there's not an end destination but relationships are fluid and to learn how to build safety in that fluidity.

-Ann

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